Easy or not, the majority of those four years, I was battling some fairly serious depression and anxiety due primarily to the minimal time I was able to spend with my daughter and the ongoing conflict with her mother.
Because of this, finding a potential partner to have a serious relationship with was not a priority for me until about the time I began dating my last girlfriend.
We don’t want to be suspicious and un-trusting, but it comes with the territory when you’ve been through what we’ve been through.
So it might seem stupid, and it might at times frustrate you, but we need you to show us that you aren’t going anywhere, and that we don’t have anything to worry about when you decide to have a night out with the girls.◊♦◊It seems that in almost any previous failed relationship, our trustworthiness has been brought into question by our partner.
But once I suddenly had her half the time, it became almost impossible for us to make plans together.
She had children too, so trying to balance both of our schedules and find evenings that we were both kid-free just put more and more stress on our relationship.
When we as dads take our children out in public, it is not uncommon to be asked where their mom is, or hear comments about us pulling “mommy duty” for the day.
It’s almost as if people assume that if we have a penis, we are incapable of caring for a child for more than a couple hours without some kind of assistance or intervention from their mother.
It wasn’t long before we were discussing where we wanted to live when we moved in together, how we would integrate our families, and what our wedding would be like.The littlest thing that was said in passing, months before, is suddenly brought up again as a supposed glaring infraction on our part.We want you to trust us so we aren’t always walking on eggshells.When we did find time to see each other, we were both so exhausted from work and taking care of our children, that we barely had enough energy left to sit on the couch watching Netflix until we passed out.Needless to say, the communication and intimacy in our relationship quickly began to deteriorate.