"Look, there's a certain amount of work that a person has to do but if you see it's becoming more and more and more, and it continues to increase, especially over the holidays, that's called distancing," said Cardi.
When one partner is unwilling to spend any time for personal time for the two of you, she says, you have a problem.
"You can't go anywhere like that." A good rule of thumb: If it's been a year with no progress, it may be time to call it quits.
"Daydreaming happens because all the other things make you start to feel hopeless," said the 30-year-old mediator.
"You begin to think what would life be like if you weren't together.
"If you don't spend any time together you can't have intimacy" she said.
"You can't just e-mail each other to keep your marriage together."From a lawyer's perspective, according to Cardi, the shifting around of accounts is far more telling than a spouse may let on.